Everyone’s expectations MUST be CLEAR about the relationship!
What does each person want out of the relationship? How much time will we spend together? What will we do together?
This Involves…
ASKING good questions to become acquainted with one another.
Get to know you questions:
What was the happiest event in your life? What three things could you not live with out?
Who is your best friend? How long have you been friends for?
What would you say was the happiest time in your life? What achievement are you most proud of?
What is your favorite time of day? What’s your favorite type of weather?
What is your favorite word and why? What is your favorite sound and why?
Who do you most respect? Who do you think you take after in your family?
What is your favorite place and why? What do you want to achieve in the next 5 years?
What do you like about yourself?
Who would you like to change lives with for a day, if you could?
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SHARING about your own life experiences.
Suggested life issues to discuss:
Family
Friendships
Dating/Marriage Social Customs
Leisure
Leisure
Spiritual
Education
Entertainment
INVESTING regular and consistent time together.
Some things to consider:
Set a regularly scheduled time to meet together– don’t let it just happen by chance
Be intentional about what you will discuss together– have a plan for what you will discuss
Don’t rush things– allow time for the relationship to develop
Set a regularly scheduled time to meet together– don’t let it just happen by chance
Be intentional about what you will discuss together– have a plan for what you will discuss
Don’t rush things– allow time for the relationship to develop
This also Requires…
COMPLETE honesty with one another.
Don’t be afraid to say what you mean.
RESPECT for differences in cultural understandings.
Being open to new ideas, and being open to understanding someone else’s point of vies, will provide you with the most satisfying conversations possible.
COMPLETE honesty with one another.
Don’t be afraid to say what you mean.
RESPECT for differences in cultural understandings.
Being open to new ideas, and being open to understanding someone else’s point of vies, will provide you with the most satisfying conversations possible.
Conversation Starters
Ever wonder what things you could talk about with your international friend? The following questions are suggestions for learning more about your friend’s customs, culture, and family. It’s important that you don’t pry or force a conversation. Be a good listener, and offer insights into your own family and culture when appropriate. Begin with, “In your country,...”
Ever wonder what things you could talk about with your international friend? The following questions are suggestions for learning more about your friend’s customs, culture, and family. It’s important that you don’t pry or force a conversation. Be a good listener, and offer insights into your own family and culture when appropriate. Begin with, “In your country,...”
FOOD
How many meals per day do people usually eat? What would you eat and drink at each of these meals?
Are meats, fruits, vegetables preserved? How? What is the most popular: vegetable, meat, fish, or dessert?
Does the family eat together most of the time? Is your country famous for a special crop?
Tell me how to make one of your favorite meals. Could you prepare it for us sometime?
CLOTHING
What kinds of clothing do men and women wear to work? What do children wear to school?
Do fashions change quickly or frequently?
What kinds of clothing do men and women wear to work? What do children wear to school?
Do fashions change quickly or frequently?
SHELTER
Please describe the appearance of a typical home. How many rooms are in an average home or apartment?
Which is usually the largest room in the residence? What furniture is found in a typical residence?
Please describe the appearance of a typical home. How many rooms are in an average home or apartment?
Which is usually the largest room in the residence? What furniture is found in a typical residence?
TRANSPORTATION
What forms of transportation are available in urban areas? How do you get to school or work?
Do people travel much from town to town? Is it customary for a family to go somewhere for a vacation?
How much does it cost to use a taxi?
What forms of transportation are available in urban areas? How do you get to school or work?
Do people travel much from town to town? Is it customary for a family to go somewhere for a vacation?
How much does it cost to use a taxi?
PETS
What is the most common kind of pet? Where do people keep their pets?
What animals are useful, and how are they used? Is there a zoo near your home? Have you been there?
What is the most common kind of pet? Where do people keep their pets?
What animals are useful, and how are they used? Is there a zoo near your home? Have you been there?
CHILDREN
How do parents select a name for their baby? When do children start school? How many hours per day?
Are children punished for bad behavior? Who does it? What song or story do you remember as a child?
How do parents select a name for their baby? When do children start school? How many hours per day?
Are children punished for bad behavior? Who does it? What song or story do you remember as a child?
SOCIAL STRUCTURE
What is typical family size? How many people are in your family?
Do you have a picture? Do grandparents live in the same house with the family?
What are the typical responsibilities for each family member? Do married women work outside the home?
What are some special holidays, and how does your family celebrate? What is an acceptable way to meet someone to marry?
At what age do children leave home to live on their own?
What is typical family size? How many people are in your family?
Do you have a picture? Do grandparents live in the same house with the family?
What are the typical responsibilities for each family member? Do married women work outside the home?
What are some special holidays, and how does your family celebrate? What is an acceptable way to meet someone to marry?
At what age do children leave home to live on their own?
LEISURE ACTIVITIES
What is the most popular sport? What sports do you like?
Are films from North America popular? Which ones? What kind of music do you listen to?
Do most cities have libraries? Are they free or do they charge a fee? How do most university students spend leisure time?
What activities do most families enjoy after work or school?
What is the most popular sport? What sports do you like?
Are films from North America popular? Which ones? What kind of music do you listen to?
Do most cities have libraries? Are they free or do they charge a fee? How do most university students spend leisure time?
What activities do most families enjoy after work or school?
SOCIAL GROUPS
What different languages do people speak? How strong are class distinctions?
What types of organizations are most popular with adults? What is the most common religion in your country?
Do people discuss religious issues? What day is the weekly legal holiday?
What different languages do people speak? How strong are class distinctions?
What types of organizations are most popular with adults? What is the most common religion in your country?
Do people discuss religious issues? What day is the weekly legal holiday?
CUSTOMS AND GESTURES
How would you introduce me to your family? What form of greeting would I use?
Would I be expected to bring a gift? What is the most common greeting and farewell?
What would we do after the greeting? What is the polite way to leave after a social evening?
How would you introduce me to your family? What form of greeting would I use?
Would I be expected to bring a gift? What is the most common greeting and farewell?
What would we do after the greeting? What is the polite way to leave after a social evening?
EDUCATION
What are some differences between schools in your country and those here in North America?
How will you use at home what you are learning here?
What are the procedures for a student desiring to enter university in your country?
What are some differences between schools in your country and those here in North America?
How will you use at home what you are learning here?
What are the procedures for a student desiring to enter university in your country?
SPIRITUAL
What are your worship centers like? What do you know about Christian faith?
What is your concept or belief about God? What is your perception of religion in this country?
Would you tell me something about your religion that is important to you?
What are your worship centers like? What do you know about Christian faith?
What is your concept or belief about God? What is your perception of religion in this country?
Would you tell me something about your religion that is important to you?
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